Sustaining a loving relationship poses challenges of it’s own, much less trying to maintain a working relationship with the one you love. Hear how Rachel manages to keep things flowing in her work/love relationship:
On Working With Your Significant Other
Jameson and I began writing songs together after we broke up. That might sound odd, but for us it made sense. Sure, we had grievances with one another, but that didn’t mean we should have to stop hanging out!
Since then, we’ve gotten back together and worked through some of those grievances. At the same time, our songwriting has morphed into a full-on start-up enterprise. However, learning how to work together and be together as a couple has been no small challenge. More than once, my housemates (i.e. my parents) have heard me stomping around my room in the midst of a full-on phone tantrum.
And yet, I feel like I’ve also learned a few things.
If you’re thinking of starting a business with your significant other, here are some tips:
1. Don’t tell them their ideas suck. Just because you’re comfortable with one another, doesn’t mean you can eschew common courtesy.
2. Separate work from play. Set specific times when you’re going to work and specific times when you’re going to hang out. Oh, and constantly checking work emails during hangout time defeats the purpose.
3. Control your emotions. If something happened outside of work, leave it there. Vent to your journal, if need be, then get over it. You can’t do good work if you’re annoyed.
4. Keep your priorities in check. What’s more important to you: the product you’re creating or the person you create it with?
5. Praise one another. Too often, we don’t praise gifted people because we’re certain they already know how great they are. Not true. We all need to be encouraged in our gifts, especially artists.
6. Say thank you. Because any endeavor requires both your gifts. Because there is a lot to do and you couldn’t do it without them. – r. yellen
Guest Blogger, Rachel Yellen is a co-writer/band mate of the band Windsor.